The client stated, “Being in this class has been a very good experience. I have learned a lot about myself, what it means to be a good father to my kids, and new techniques about being a father. Watching the movie and doing the activities also helped me to see things in a different light. It reminded me of my responsibility as a man and a father. I really needed this class and I hope that every other father sees what I saw and learns something to help them in their lives.”
This father came to us like 95% of the other fathers–court ordered, after being found in criminal contempt for not paying their child support as ordered. The client stood a little over 6 feet, handsome, well groomed, manly man, with well-defined muscles. He was articulate, with a charming personality and a friendly smile, quite “a ladies man”, as I was told by him later. On the outside, he looked like he had it all together; however, on the inside he carried a tremendous amount of pain, regret, anger, and frustration, along with a lot of bitterness, un-forgiveness, and some addictions, as well. He verbally participated in some of the class discussions, but often it seemed as if he was hearing things for the first time; however, he would nod his head and smile in agreement with what was being said from time to time.
It wasn’t until one day after class, when I spent some one on one time with him, that I heard his story; I could hear the pain and anger in his voice as he talked about his life. He stated from age 6 until 14 he and his sibling was physically abused by their biological father, until he was later incarcerated for abusing them. He and his sibling were put in foster homes and at age 17 he ran away. The client stated he had been in and out of jail a lot of his adult life for selling drugs. Then, in tears, he thanked the staff and me for the changes he had made in his perception of fatherhood. He said, “At age 39, I have 5 children and because of these classes, I can now see how much my kids need me; and I need them just as much.” He concluded with this statement, “From this day forward I am going to be the best father I can be”.
This father, in spite of his criminal record, graduated from Father Forever with a job; arranged for payroll deductions; and is now making his monthly child support payments.
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