I took a fight to Orlando, Fl. not long ago to visit some friends. We arrived, and while we were waiting in line to get our baggage, we were told our luggage was left at the airport but it would arrive later that day. As you can image, we were quite upset and not very kind to the airline staff. How could that happen? Some of us, including myself, even threatened to file complaints.
I went back to the airport about four hours later and, after waiting another 45 minutes, I claimed my baggage. It was all there, all together; no damage. By the end of the day, my anger had subsided and I completely forgot about filing a complaint. Getting my stuff back and spending time with my friends eased my anxiety and erased my frustration.
Let’s look at this from another vantage point, as it relates to relationship. “Life Happens” and sometimes we leave each other. We are now traveling alone, and the sad part is, sometimes we don’t know it. It wasn’t my fault my baggage was left. I didn’t even know it until someone told me I’d have to wait for it, but, nevertheless, they were left and I had to go back and get them.
Have you left your spouse, even though you’re still living together and even sleeping in the same bed? Perhaps the fight wasn’t your fault.
Or, maybe you and a family member had a disagreement and you haven’t spoke to them in days, perhaps weeks or months and sometimes years. Maybe that disagreement wasn’t your fault either
Or, maybe, there’s that co worker or that friend. Y’all once talked daily, but now you hardly speak to them. It wasn’t your fault, either, though; they violated your trust.
Or, perhaps, you left your faith, left the church, because your prayers weren’t answered in the way you expected them to be and, besides, you don’t trust the pastor anymore anyway.
I was anxious about my baggage during that four-to-five-hour wait. For good reason, too: those things belong to me; they’re things I chose to travel with, things I wanted, things I needed, so I was happy to go claim them. I didn’t hesitate.
Your relationships belong to you and, yes, maybe it wasn’t your fault that relationship, or others, hit trouble or ended. But that’s your stuff! So, go get it! Go get that spouse, the one you chose to travel with in life. Go get that family member, your mom, your dad, your sibling. You need them! Go get that co-worker or that friend. And, just as importantly, go get your faith! Reclaim what’s yours.
You may be surprised. Your anger, your anxiety and your frustration may all go away – just as mine did over my lost baggage – when you are spending time with that relationship. Go, claim your stuff!
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