A Fathers Forever client stated: “This has been a very good experience being in this class. I have learned a lot about myself, being a good father to my kids and new techniques to be a father. Watching the movie and doing the activities also helped me to see things in a different light. It reminds me of my responsibility as a man and a father. I really needed this class, and I hope that every other father sees what I saw and learned something to help their lives.”
This father comes to us at Fathers Forever like 95% of other fathers; court ordered after being found in criminal contempt for not paying their child support as ordered. This particular client stood a little over 6 feet; a handsome, well-groomed manly-man with well-defined muscles. He was articulate. He had a charming personality and a friendly smile. He was quite a ladies’ man, he told me later. On the outside, he looked like he had it all together; however, on the inside he carried a tremendous amount of pain, regret, anger and frustration, along with a lot of bitterness, unforgiveness, as well as some addictions. He verbally participated in some of the class discussions, but often it seemed as if he was hearing things for the first time. Still, he would nod his head a lot and smile in agreement with what was being said.
It wasn’t until one day after class that I spent some one-on-one time with him that I heard his story. I could hear the pain and anger in his voice as he talked about his life. He stated from the time he was 6-year-old until he was 14, he and his siblings were physically abused by their biological father – until he was incarnated for child abuse. He and his siblings were put in foster homes. At 17, he ran away. The client also told me he had been in and out of jail a lot of his adult life for selling drugs. Then, with tears in his eyes, he thanked me and the staff for changing his perception of fatherhood. He said, “At age 39, I have five children, and because of these classes, you made me see how much my kids need me and from this day forward I am going to be the best father I could be. This father, in spite of his criminal record, graduated from Fathers Forever with a job – and a pay-roll deduction now paying his monthly child support. His is another success story in The Portrait of Fathers: The R.E.S.E.T.
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